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That was reported as being new science and it is science in the sense that the experiment can be conducted by other people to see if they obtain similar results. However, the underlying idea certainly isn't new and 400 years ago Shakespeare published a little play on this subject which many people have watched called The Tragedy of Hamlet, Prince of Denmark. The entire story line is based on a person who is greatly stressed and his attempts to verify what is objective truth and what is his own mental projection. The character Hamlet shows how easy it is to misconstrue and project onto obviously random phenomena a pattern as in: ...

Act 3, Scene 2 -

HAMLET - Do you see yonder cloud that's almost in shape of a camel?
LORD POLONIUS - By the mass, and 'tis like a camel, indeed.
HAMLET - Methinks it is like a weasel.
LORD POLONIUS - It is backed like a weasel.
HAMLET - Or like a whale?
LORD POLONIUS - Very like a whale.

Act 5, Scene 2 -
OSRIC - Sweet lord, if your lordship were at leisure, I
should impart a thing to you from his majesty.

HAMLET - I will receive it, sir, with all diligence of
spirit. Put your bonnet to his right use; 'tis for the head.

OSRIC - I thank your lordship, it is very hot.

HAMLET - No, believe me, 'tis very cold; the wind is
northerly.

OSRIC - It is indifferent cold, my lord, indeed.

HAMLET - But yet methinks it is very sultry and hot for my
complexion.

OSRIC - Exceedingly, my lord; it is very sultry,--as
'twere,--I cannot tell how. But, my lord, his
majesty bade me signify to you that he has laid a
great wager on your head: sir, this is the matter,--

Whitson: "People see false patterns in all types of data, imagining trends in stock markets, seeing faces in static and detecting conspiracies between acquaintances,” Whitson said. “This suggests that lacking control leads to a visceral need for order—even imaginary order."

Shakespeare understood this problem which Galinsky and Whitson test with their experiments and he goes on to the obvious next steps, which are: How can we protect ourselves from projecting our own thoughts and biases upon data and furthermore how can we trick others into revealing their hidden thoughts and biases?

Act 2, Scene 2 -

HAMLET - I have heard
That guilty creatures sitting at a play
Have by the very cunning of the scene
Been struck so to the soul that presently
They have proclaim'd their malefactions;
For murder, though it have no tongue, will speak
With most miraculous organ. I'll have these players
Play something like the murder of my father
Before mine uncle: I'll observe his looks;
I'll tent him to the quick: if he but blench,
I know my course. The spirit that I have seen
May be the devil: and the devil hath power
To assume a pleasing shape; yea, and perhaps
Out of my weakness and my melancholy,
As he is very potent with such spirits,
Abuses me to damn me: I'll have grounds
More relative than this: the play 's the thing
Wherein I'll catch the conscience of the king.

Act 3, Scene 2, line 72 -

HAMLET -to Horatio: - Give me that man
That is not passion's slave, and I will wear him
In my heart's core, ay, in my heart of heart,
As I do thee.--Something too much of this.--
There is a play to-night before the king;
One scene of it comes near the circumstance
Which I have told thee of my father's death:
I prithee, when thou seest that act afoot,
Even with the very comment of thy soul
Observe mine uncle: if his occulted guilt
Do not itself unkennel in one speech,
It is a damned ghost that we have seen,
And my imaginations are as foul
As Vulcan's stithy. Give him heedful note;
For I mine eyes will rivet to his face,
And after we will both our judgments join
In censure of his seeming.

Even though I know better, in weak moments I still like to imagine that other people make me feel certain ways. The thing is that others can't make us feel anything. My own feelings about the words, behaviors, or sometimes even the look of another person are reflections caught in my mirror of self. Until I'm transcendent and fully loving, I believe that what I see out there often reflects something about myself. There's so much room for growth and love, if only I can clear out what stunts and cripples.

When patterns and signposts in my life repeat often enough to make a pattern, they show that I've had many healing opportunities in the past that I didn't recognize or didn't have the courage to accept. Because people are bent on wholeness whether we like it or not, we will keep drawing potentially healing experiences to ourselves until we are healed. Even if we reject those healing experiences, react against them, or choose destructive and defiant acts to spite them.

digging up the ancient stones

Over the past week or two, I've been the fortunate recipient of some synchronous and uncanny opportunities for healing of archaic wounds, wounds I thought were healed by now but which I find are telling me, "you're not finished yet, my dear." Not finished yet. That makes me smile. I'm grateful to be always able to grow.

These opportunities come from every direction in life---from people we live with, work with, neighbors, strangers, and, yes, even from other bloggers. In my own case, I've had some regular readers inadvertently send me damning but healing words that have me returning to my childhood, where like everyone else I laid, and had laid for me, the foundation of the home for the self I would later become. As we all know by now, these foundations are often off kilter, and the whole house that takes its shape from it is similarly skewed. Most times there's nothing to be done but raze it to the very foundation. Some of us must dig up even the ancient stones.

the gift that keeps on giving

I don't quite understand the mechanics of sowing and reaping among human hearts, but I know that if you plant a marigold seed in the earth, you'll grow a marigold and not a begonia. So whatever seeds of false identity, false identification, wrong thinking, or hatred I grow in my heart, or project onto others, will produce a crop of the same. It stands to reason, then---and this is what we helping professionals teach our clients---that we pretty much all get what we need even more than we get what we deserve. This is because we unconsciously and habitually throw away from us the very things we need to bring home with us. Thus, we always get the experiences we most need to heal us.

The dangerous part of this equation is that healing opportunities can be harmful if we don't choose wisely. For example, we often told clients in marital therapy that we tend to marry our parents, finding someone who will re-create for us the same environment the family of origin gave us. We can then either do something different with our spouses, growing through the experience and finally becoming whole; or we can re-create the emotional climate, make the same old choices, and be the same people we were before. We can then leave and blame the marriage, moving on to the next relationship where we'll do it all over again. And people often follow this pattern, for the divorce rate among second and third marriages increases exponentially among folks who can't sort themselves out.

learning acceptance

As I'm going along in life, and other people distress or upset me---even if only a very little bit!---this is a wonderful signal that something is missing or lacking or may need adjusting in my life. Very seldom do others see us clearly enough to be able to do the specific acts that will bring us to our knees or break our hearts. No, we are best able to do that for ourselves, and so we attract hurtful experiences or words like flies to honey, until we can no longer be hurt by them because we are healed. Or until there is nothing but a gaping, gangrenous wound. The choice is ours.

When I judge another person, or hold expectations, or want another person to change so that I can feel better, or see another person as less than perfectly acceptable and loving, or even when I draw unbecoming behavior out of another person, these are all wonderful clues to how I really perceive myself, first and foremost. I've written before about how, when I get upset with others, I make a quick and dirty list of just how terrible that person is. And then I divide the page and write "I" statements about all those qualities, because I absolutely have them too. And if I think I don't because I'm having a self-aggrandizing, delusional moment, I have a husband and children handy who will laugh out loud if I dare to ask them, "I'm not such-and-such a way, am I?" I'm always such-and-such a way; I just don't always see it.

What I mean is that I get upset when someone resonates in me the parts of myself that I've disowned, denied, rejected, and then projected onto them. They show me, and reflect to me, what I need to see and accept in myself. Seeing my bad, embarrassing, and sorry traits isn't enough. I must move on to accept myself, warts and all, as they say. I must love myself fully because until I do, I am absolutely prevented from loving anyone else fully.

the finger in my wound

Other people are responsible for the part they play, too, of course. We each participate in the dance as willing partners. Each party to the encounter receives exactly what he or she chooses. If we're discerning and careful, we may potentially receive better than what we choose: we may receive healing. We may transcend the wounds that are trying to be healed. We may achieve wholeness. Finally.

The person who provokes me and puts the finger into my wound is my friend. I bless and thank that other person for giving me the chance to practice love, forgiveness, and acceptance. I thank the other person in my heart for striking the match that lights the candle that sheds light into the darkest places of my self.

When people say or do things that are provocative, I start telling a story about how wrong they are and how right I am. When I take the victim stance, I am merely showing myself and the world the unhealed part of myself, the part that sees crooked. But, if I'm willing to let the light shine, so that I can see things differently or more clearly, then I can find restoration and share it with others, too.

I'm going to be writing about how this process of restoration has worked in my life in the past and presently, for over the past few weeks I've had some handy experiences with readers that perfectly illustrate the process of healing. I'll go there by a meandering route, telling stories as I go, because stories illustrate truth as well or better, sometimes, than case studies.

crash site

It takes a lot of courage to work through what has pained you all your life. Not everyone started life with the best circumstances. Not everyone was wanted or loved. Not everyone wishes for their mother when they're ill or needy; some people have had terrifying mothers. Some people had no father at all. Some people had no real parents to speak of. Some people grew up with cardboard others who were called "family," but who were more like stage props. Some people lived with vampires. Some people had parents but were orphans anyway.

If you go to the grocery store or the mall and sit and watch people for a few hours, you will see several mothers screaming at their children. You will see fathers jerking their toddlers by the arm. You will hear husbands saying cruel words to their wives. You will overhear mean and horrible things from cell phone conversations. All these people saying and doing hurtful things publicly do them ten times more behind closed doors. Most of them have children, and they are cruel and hurtful to their little children, too. Most of those children grow up. And all of those wounded children are just that: wounded. They need healing. And they become adults who need healing and love, and probably don't get it. And they crash into one another in attempts to get it. When we crash, the police come; the fire fighters come; and the ambulance comes. Someone rushes to help us. It is much the same with wounded people crashing about. You may be one. I may be one. And if we don't learn to heal ourselves one encounter at a time, with forgiveness and mercy extended to that other person who was so mean, so rude, so stupid, then we will remain unhealed. And so will they.

I'm here to do for myself what my mom and dad didn't do for me, and what I haven't felt worthy to have done for me by others: to love me, to nurture me, to get help for me, to be kind to me. God is always love, always acceptance, always kindness, always goodness. I too can be all this. I am a pearl in the eyes of God, and so are you. I'm worthy even when I'm helpless or vulnerable; and so are you. In Isaiah, it says that even while we were helpless and naked infants, squirming in the blood of afterbirth, God passed by and picked us up, washed us and cared for us. And until we pass by the messiest, most helpless parts of ourselves, and pick that squalling infant up, wash it, and care for it, we are not yet where we ought to be as human beings.

And that's what I'll be writing about next.

Or perhaps it's what I've always been writing about.

My recent experience teaching digital photography at PowerPoint Live yielded a wealth of classroom experience in a new setup with which I've been toying. Other than practice in my office environment, it was the first opportunity I've had to test the gear in action and I am pleased to say that it worked in the field.

"Chimping for the Masses!"

The Goal:

My goal was to do a couple of things at once.

1. Show live capture on a projection screen as it was captured
2. Dump those live captures simultaneously into a folder on the hard drive for use in an image editing package
3. Switch seamlessly between the two.

The Complete Setup

The key to the entire setup is to have a DSLR that can perform live output. (Although my Canon A550 P-n-S also worked well)  This allows you to connect a laptop, a projector, and a DSLR in a circular arrangement to maximize your teaching opportunity so that you can demo all aspects of the digital imaging process live.  The Canon 40D has a live preview option which allows you to use the Video Out Port on the camera to send a video signal to the projector. In addition, the USB to PC connection is in the same area making it possible to shoot the images without too much tangle of cords getting in the way.

Camera Connections showing video out
to the projector and USB out to the laptop.

The Video Out cable goes into the projector where it can broadcast the sensor's live image to a projection screen. This makes it possible for the students to see the image as it is composed, captured, the depth of field previewed as well as menus and viewfinder displays.

Laptop connections showing the USB in from
the camera and the VGA out to the projector.

The camera sends the captured images through the USB cable to the laptop where the EOS Utility that comes with the 40D monitors for incoming images and dumps them into a pre-determined folder. Here is the beauty of an image management package like Lightroom. Lightroom can be set to monitor this folder for the images and import them automatically.  This makes it possible to edit the images you project and capture easily in the two preset image editors you've configured. In my case Lightroom will send a 16 bit ProPhoto image to either Photoshop CS3 or Corel Photo-Paint X4.

Projector connections showing the VGA in from
the Laptop and the Video in from the Canon 40D

With the laptop set to snag all the captures and the camera broadcasting the video from the live preview and menu options all that is left to manage the show is a little deft projector input control. Most projectors allow you to do this in one of two ways. There is normally an input button on the top of the projector allowing you to toggle through the video sources.  Some projectors come with remotes which allow you to switch the input source on the projector from the convenience of your laptop which is usually situated at the front of the classroom.

Changing projector input sources either at the projector or by remote for seamless switching between laptop and camera

Understanding that battery drain on cameras is high in live preview modes, means having auxiliary power for your camera at hand to keep the show rolling.  I used the Canon ACK-E2 AC power unit to ensure I could keep the live preview active when I needed it.

A setup like this allows you to truly integrate all the electronic components of digital imaging in a classroom environment so that all can see the composition, capture and editing processes. There is no trying to chimp a group of people around a small LCD, no downloading of card and importing of images long after they are captured, and there is no monkeying around with ultra-complex setups and frenetic cable swapping.

Doubtless this will be changing the process and the method of my future teaching. And, it is about time too!

Rikk Flohr © 2008

I keep asking myself despite my strong self awareness why some people though they haven't met me don't like me. And since I'm self aware, I should know how to understand them. Self awareness leads to understanding other people why they act or behave the way they do. I am trying to completely understand though there's a force that drives me to be odd to them since they don't like me.

I remember these words of one person " Ignore the people who are not happy about you for there are people out there who are happy when you win, grieve with you and always there no matter what happens". Sometimes  people who are nice to us are the one being ignored.

I came up with this conclusion regarding that thing:

• I am not portraying someone who is not me
• I am not projecting as the person I want to be
• There are just mean people who will push you down no matter how good you are
• Constant reflection and self awareness  is the key not to be affected by all the emotional stresses
• You cant please all people

And lastly, for those people who think I am apathetic..

I dont have a flat affect, apathetic or whatever..

I JUST KNOW HOW TO UNDERSTAND

This second interview with Couric will only fool the same fools who plan on voting for McCain anyway , i.e., 1) wealthy doesn't want any chance of increased taxes, 2) Crazy Right Religious Holy-Roller Voter, or 3)  identity voter, I'm dumb so I vote dumb.

What if something happens to McCain?  Will the McCain folks just keep going Weekend at Bernie's  style?

According to the Philedelphia Enquirer,

"Palin's joint appearance last night with running mate John McCain on The CBS Evening News With Katie Couric was a public-relations disaster, conveying the impression of a father coming to the defense of his naïve daughter who had gotten into trouble at school."

He couldn't help interrupting a question asked to her, and he went on a bit before realizing the boo-boo: "I'll let Gov. Palin speak for herself."

When she did, she said this: "Not only am I ready but willing and able to serve as vice president with Sen. McCain if Americans so bless us and privilege us with the opportunity of serving them, ready with my executive experience as a city mayor and manager, as a governor, as a commissioner, a regulator of oil and gas."

And now, after exposing herself to a total of three TV questioners (the third was Fox News' Sean Hannity), she shows up with her running mate. It was impossible not to draw the impression that he was there to make sure she didn't falter again.

And in the Enquirer's comments, "By the way you forgot to mention how she turned to look at him when she spoke a guess seeking her dads approval."

Rational thinking independent voters are going to run to Obama in droves.   I can't imagine what's in store for us Thursday if McCain is still playing to his "base."

Oh, one last thing - some classic projection.   Beth Shaw over at www.rightpundits.comis so tired of Obama that "his voice grates" when she hears him.   As an avid (or is that rabid?) McCain voter she knows political manipulation when she sees it, "There’s obvious hope that they (the Obama campaign) can take the election through a manipulation of the people they believe to be too dumb to see the game they are playing."

Ok - so now I totally get the idea of projection. 

Katie Couric: Over the weekend, Gov. Palin, you said the U.S. should absolutely launch cross-border attacks from Afghanistan into Pakistan to, quote, "stop the terrorists from coming any further in." Now, that's almost the exact position that Barack Obama has taken and that you, Sen. McCain, have criticized as something you do not say out loud. So, Gov. Palin, are you two on the same page on this?

Sarah Palin: We had a great discussion with President Zardari as we talked about what it is that America can and should be doing together to make sure that the terrorists do not cross borders and do not ultimately put themselves in a position of attacking America again or her allies. And we will do what we have to do to secure the United States of America and her allies.

Couric: Is that something you shouldn't say out loud, Sen. McCain?

John McCain: Of course not. But, look, I understand this day and age of "gotcha" journalism. Is that a pizza place? In a conversation with someone who you didn't hear … the question very well, you don't know the context of the conversation, grab a phrase. Gov. Palin and I agree that you don't announce that you're going to attack another country …

Couric: Are you sorry you said it?

McCain: … and the fact …

Couric: Governor?

McCain: Wait a minute. Before you say, "is she sorry she said it," this was a "gotcha" sound bite that, look …

Couric: It wasn't a "gotcha." She was talking to a voter.

McCain: No, she was in a conversation with a group of people and talking back and forth. And … I'll let Gov. Palin speak for herself.

Palin: Well, it … in fact, you're absolutely right on. In the context, this was a voter, a constituent, hollering out a question from across an area asking, "What are you gonna do about Pakistan? You better have an answer to Pakistan." I said we're gonna do what we have to do to protect the United States of America.

Couric: But you were pretty specific about what you wanted to do, cross-border …

Palin: Well, as Sen. McCain is suggesting here, also, never would our administration get out there and show our cards to terrorists, in this case, to enemies and let them know what the game plan was, not when that could ultimately adversely affect a plan to keep America secure.

Couric: What did you learn from that experience?

Palin: That this is all about "gotcha" journalism. A lot of it is. But that's okay, too.

Couric: Gov. Palin, since our last interview, you've gotten a lot of flak. Some Republicans have said you're not prepared; you're not ready for prime-time. People have questioned your readiness since that interview. And I'm curious …

Palin: Yeah.

Couric: … to hear your reaction.

Palin: Well, not only am I ready, but willing and able to serve as vice-president with Sen. McCain if Americans so bless us and privilege us with the opportunity of serving them, ready with my executive experience as a city mayor and manager, as a governor, as a commissioner, a regulator of oil and gas.

McCain: This is not the first time that I've seen a governor being questioned by some quote, "expert." I remember that Ronald Reagan was a "cowboy." President Clinton was a governor of a very small state that had "no experience" either. (laughter) I remember how easy it was gonna be for Bush I to defeat him. I still recall, whoops, that one. But the point is I've seen underestimation before. I'm very proud of the excitement that Gov. Palin has ignited with our party and around this country. It is a … level of excitement and enthusiasm, frankly, that I haven't seen before. And I'd like to attribute it to me. But the fact is that she has done incredible job. And I'm so proud of the work that she's doing.

Want to get a bigger tv but can't afford it?  If you Have a rear projection TV, why not just get a bigger screen?  That's exactly what was done here. They dismantled the old TV, mounted it and enclosed it theater style, with curtains.  They then mounted a new screen in front of it and voala, bigger TV.  He doesn't talk about how much brightness was lost, but there had to be some.  The final picture looks great.

[thanks BonMul]

5:00 p.m.-ish - I arrive at the theater, clock in, and make myself a Diet Pepsi.

5:30-6:00 - Around this time I'll wander upstairs to the projection corridor, where (obviously) the projectors for all 5 theaters are housed.  If it's a Wednesday, I'll fire up all the machines; if it's a Sunday, I let the afternoon projectionist know that he can leave.  I then thread up all the movies, a multi-step process that involves "threading" the film through multiple rollers and gates.  It's not difficult, but it's not intuitive, either, and one forgotten or mis-performed step will result in a minor-to-terrible disaster that may or may not result in the delay or cancellation of the movie. (In this sense, we're probably the most important person in the theater, especially considering that none of the managers know how to thread a movie.  I should be paid more than I am.)

This process takes approximately 2-3 minutes per movie.

6:00 - I start the pre-show for the 6:30 movie(s).  As you can probably tell, our pre-show lasts thirty minutes; starting involves turning on the digital projector, pressing play on the DVD player, and switching over the sound.  This process takes about 10 seconds for each movie.

One all the movies are threaded and I've started the pre-show, I'll usually either get on the internet, or go down to the bar to refill my Diet Pepsi and have a cigarette.  Often I'll do both.

6:30-7:30 - I start the movies at the appropriate times.  This involves pressing the "Start" button, turning up the volume, and taking a few seconds to make sure everything's working correctly.  It almost always works correctly.  Again, w

aiting time is spent surfing the web, chatting up our waitresses/bartenders, and/or drinking Diet Pepsi and smoking.

7:30-8:45 - I eat dinner at the bar, drink Diet Pepsi, chat up waitresses/bartenders, and smoke.

8:45-10:15 - I repeat the film preparation process as described above.

10:15-12:30 - I hang out by the bar until the cuter waitresses/bartenders clock out and go home.  Then I'll usually wander around, maybe watch a few minutes of a movie, then retreat back to the projection corridor and the internet.  On Wednesday nights we have Rock Band karaoke, and often I'll supervise/participate with the drunkards playing "Say It Ain't So" for the twentieth time.

At random times throughout the night I'll change the channel(s) on the 2-story projection screen in the bar, change the music station, switch the sound between the game and music, and adjust the volume.  These processes usually take anywhere from 2 seconds to 2 minutes.

When the last movie of the night ends, I turn on the work lights, wind up the remaining film and put the cloth cover over the platter, then wait five minutes before cutting power to the projector (to avoid blowing up the very hot xenon bulb) and turning off the regular lights in the theater.  This process usually takes about 6 minutes per theater, with about 5 minutes spent just waiting for the bulb to cool.

And that's my night.  In a given 7+ hour shift, I'll do maybe an hour's worth of actual work. And I get to watch free movies whenever I want. It's probably the best job in the entire world.

There's more about this Here.

Exposure works. To anyone else out there who has a story about this predator or any other, speak out, don't be ashamed, you have nothing to be ashamed of.  Predators like Beckstead take advantage of your kind nature and vulnerability, they use this for their own personal gain. You as a victim know the truth, stand by it and stand tall. Take back your dignity, you, as his or another predators target have done nothing wrong.  We trusted in them and believed their lies, only we did not know they were lies until further down the line.

Predators try to scare victims into silence -- and it all ends up being NOTHING almost 99% of the time.  Nothing but grade school type attacks & name calling.  Showing how low, immature and unable to be accountable they are. Beckstead tried to bully his victims into silence.  When that failed he again used projection and word salad, he emailed some of his victims and grossly embellished on personal information (he loves to spread malicious gossip about you to his next target of choice). He tries to scare and shame his victims into submission by telling them that he has told everyone about "your" state of mental health - and then adds that "he is prepared to forgive you - because you can't help it". This was said to hopefully play on his victims emotions and reel them back in. This was said to also pave the way to allow him an excuse to everyone else out there to carry on abusing you and your trust and keep you under his control.   Only unfortunately for Beckstead his victims could see through him and past his bully boy tactics. They did not "need him" the way he thinks they did. They did not "want him" the way he thinks they did. They are stronger, healthier and happier people now for not having this cretin in their lives.

He will take a minor comment made and twist it to the point of being ridiculous, he is nothing but transparent. This is the same man who repeatedly accused his victims of suffering from "mood-swings", when in actual fact his emails show exactly who was swinging from the glory chandeliers one minute and draping himself in self-pity the next. Beckstead is the one required to take a myriad of meds to keep himself afloat. He is a screaming hypochondriac always vieing for your attention.

He accused many of his victims of having issues with him.

There was always an excuse from him, the woman went from being his everything "don't know what I would do without you and the kids in my life" to being "after him", "obsessed with him", "after his body" -yeah right. He called one "a radical lesbian", another one "biologically disturbed", one victims dog "attacked him" - he threatened to "sue"( after he sexually accosted the two young girls in the family & threatened to sue their parents because of the dog attack if they went to the authorities) ... you name it, he had a name and excuse for everyone of his former victims (including children) as to what, where and why they disliked him so.  Could it not be for the simple reason that they found out who and what you truly are Beckstead? You have to ask the question, surely all of these people could not all be wrong about him, now could they?  Lets not forget that most of these victims were and remain to be a class above him and only tolerated him because they thought he was genuine and sincere until the game playing on his part commenced. Once you start to realize and ask him questions, all bets are off.

Exposure HELPS victims on the healing path to first and foremost realizing that it was not you as the target and victims fault. It was never your fault, the onus lies with the predator. It helps you realise and validate your experience, especially when you meet others out there that have suffered a similar fate. If not at the same hand as your predator then a strikingly similar experience shared with another - all of these predators operate under the same guises. You are not alone.

Exposure helps spread the word out there that we are not prepared to remain passive and let these predators get away with what they have done. Exposure makes these predators be held accountable for their actions. This in-turn helps you heal -with the knowledge that you are helping to save others from becoming victims.

It is not about revenge, it is not about a vendetta, it is about accountability, making them responsible one way or another it is about taking back your life.

It is about prevention, knowledge is key.

Exposure makes those not aware or perhaps not realize that online predatory behavior towards adults is becoming more prevalent out there on the internet.  By exposing these predators we make a stand that this behavior is not acceptable.

Most certainly the predator will never admit to you or anyone else that they have committed any of these depraved acts against you. However, as proven over time, other victims will read your story - then they will come forward and tell you their story.

Validation = healing

Exposure warns others either involved with this predator or about to become involved with this predator, of what lies ahead.  If exposure saves just one other person from riding that emotional roller-coaster ride to hell then it is worth it. Beckstead and those like him get their cheap thrills out of using you, "watching you squirm" was one of his favorite lines, often said to his victims as he prepared to play a nasty hand against a work colleague or someone else who dared stand out in front of his obese carcass.  Watch out because he is warning you of what is yet to come your way, it won't be long before you too are suffering at his cruel hand of lies and deceit, in-fact from the word go he is lying to you.

Finally a big thank-you goes out to the National Park Services for making a stand against this predator who has abused you behind the scenes and used you for his own personal notoriety and attention.  We know you have read what he wrote and we know you have witnessed the packages that were sent to your office in Fairbanks.  We understand that some of you had your own  personal grievances with this pathetic excuse of a person.  Every action no matter how small helps stop predators like Beckstead in their tracks.

Beckstead at a now 50 years of age, who lies and brags about "serving in Iraq" (he was sitting passive, writing, safe behind a heavily guarded compound) has neither morals or conscience and no genuine care towards others. His only care is the notoriety and attention he can gain for himself.  Any genuine person with a sense of humanity who claims to have witnessed the atrocities of war would show remorse and compassion.  Beckstead is a cold hearted sociopath who is not capable of showing any humanity, he pretends, with his only goal intended - to serve himself.

As witnessed below Beckstead is still trying to impress and brag about another story using his former employers website at the NPS, to boast and brag about glories long since past him. Thank-you NPS for not being an enabler to this predator.  Hat tip to a member of the armyairforces forum for bringing this to our attention.

Stay strong and be kind to yourselves,

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Une paranthèse utile pour la suite des évènements. Pour que tu saisisses l'image que les gens ont de toi à priori (en tant qu'Européenne). Le dernier Woody Allen en est le parfait exemple. Bien que le film ne soit pas un chef d'oeuvre, il est sympathique (+2 belles femmes et un mec superhot) & fait fureur à New York. Les new yorkais raffolent de cet exotisme synonyme de liberté et d'ouverture d'esprit. C'est ainsi que tout le monde veux aller en Espagne (en Europe en général)...C'est assez drôle de voir toute cette accumulation de clichés mais à mon avis il suffit de retenir que les américains ont envie d'autre chose que des Iphones et Blackberry.

Regarde donc la bande d'annonce : http://www.allocine.fr/video/player_gen_cmedia=18830730&cfilm=126148.html

Solid Democratic (Pick-up) (1)

• Virginia (Warner)

Solid Democratic (Retention)(10)

• Kerry (Massachusetts)
• Durbin (Illinois)
• Baucus (Montana)
• Johnson (South Dakota)
• Levin (Michigan)
• Harkin (Iowa)
• Biden (Delaware)
• Reed (Rhode Island)
• Pryor (Arkansas) *No challenger
• Rockefeller (West Virginia)

Likely Democratic (Pick-up) (1)

• New Mexico (Domenici)

Possible Darkhorse races (Democratic Incumbent) (1)

• Lautenberg (New Jersey)

Leans Democratic (4)

• Sununu (New Hampshire)
• Landrieu (Lousiana)
• Colorado (Allard)
• Stevens (Alaska)

Toss-up (2)

• Dole (North Carolina)
• Smith (Oregon)

Leans Republican (4)

• Coleman (Minnesota)
• Collins (Maine)
• Wicker (Mississippi-B)
• McConnell (Kentucky)

Likely Republican (Open Seat retention) (1)

• Idaho (Craig)

Possible Darkhorse Races (Republican Incumbent) (3)

• Cornyn (Texas)
• Inhofe (Oklahoma)
• Roberts (Kansas)

Solid Republican (Retention) (8)

• Graham (South Carolina)
• Enzi (Wyoming-A)
• Barrasso (Wyoming-B)
• Sessions (Alabama)
• Cochran (Mississippi-A)
• Chambliss (Georgia)
• Alexander (Tennessee)
• Nebraska (Hagel)

This week, I moved two races from Leans Republican to Toss-up (North Carolina and Oregon) both based on polling and a few other factors (in North Carolina, I know that SUSA and Research 2000 showing Dole with a moderate lead, but I'm more inclined to believe local pollsters Civitas and PPP who show the race to be at a basic tie) (in Oregon, I agree with Swing State Project's Crisitunity, the last three polls have shown a basic tie, and Smith isn't acting like someone in a strong position). I'd also like to add that Minnesota is tettering on the edge of toss-up and Maine is tettering on the edge of simply Dark-horse, and I'm on the fence as to whether or not I want to call Georgia a potential dark-horse, I'll hold out for some more polling to confirm that). So right now, Democrats are projected to have 50 seats (54 if you include leans) Republicans are projected to have 38 seats (42 with leans) and there are 10 seats which are truly competitive (2 of them are true toss-ups, 4 are leaning towards the Democrats, and 4 are leaning towards the Republicans).

UPDATE: Ok, I take Tagento's point, I'm moving New Jersey from Solid to Potential Dark-Horse, but I really don't see Lautenberg losing either.

Now consider that there are as many realities as there are people. We have agreements to share larger realities such as the collective, global or cultural reality. We also have personal realities that overlap and can become quite confusing.

In Process Coaching we use the metaphor of the Movie to explain how this works.
http://processcoaching.com/movies.html

The story of the blind men and the elephant also illustrates this phenomenon quite well. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blind_men_and_an_elephant. There are a few versions of the story. What it comes down to is the fact that we often don’t see the whole picture, and our perception of reality is very personal, and often completely different from another’s.

Communication is the bridge and the challenge of relating to another’s reality. When we communicate we tend to forget that our version of the story is only part of the story (except to ourselves). As we navigate through our overlapping realities together, and we humans love to be around each other regardless of the complications, we get so caught up in our own version. We start to believe that our reality is all there is.

It is partly true.  For the individual it is true, but we live together and agree to reflect and play roles for each other so that we can experience more of who we are beyond our egos. To know ourselves completely, we hire people to mirror what we love and don’t love about ourselves. For what reason? To know ourselves completely and see what we cannot see. We continue to hire people until we realize who we are--that which we love and deny in ourselves which is reflected in others.

So communication is not only the means and the opportunity to bridge the different realities so that we can be with each other and know ourselves but also to share, relate and learn with each other. It can be trying at times, and at other times quite pleasurable. Even the most heated discussions or fights can be fun and enlightening if we remember that we each have our own version.

Communication is a skill that takes a lifetime of trial and error at different rates for all of us. Some people are more comfortable with the emotional and body aspect of communication. Others are more comfortable with the words and mind in communication. We have our habits and our patterns, our beliefs and our experiences to grapple with as well.

So how do we manage at all? The best we can. First, listen. Hear each other out, one at a time. Agree to disagree, but express what it feels like instead of blaming each other. No one is at fault, even in the worse cases. We really are doing the best we can with the tools we have. Find more tools and help if needed. If you walk away, give it time. And keep the bridges open for as long as possible to let in the possibility for love, the light of understanding and ultimately compassion, to come through.