Gentleness             helpfulness             honesty

Honorable              humility                 idealistic

Integrity               joyful                    justice

Kindness

A friend of mine is just ending her relationship that has been seven years of hell for her.  When I asked her on a scale of one – ten to rate each of those qualities found in layer one and layer two of the relationship cake, she gave a dismal one or two rating.  Suddenly the light bulb came on.  She clearly sees now why her relationship did not last. 

Reflection Question Quiz or Love Calculator

 On a scale of 1-10 you do the ratings!

1 = poor        5 = average           10 = excellent

1.      Where do I stand in each quality on layer one? (4 ratings)

2.      Where does my honey stand in each quality on layer one? (4 ratings)

3.      Where do I stand in each quality on layer two? (4 ratings)

4.      Where does my sweetheart stand? (4 ratings)

Rate your relationship: 

80 or less       Read some tips on growing your self esteem!

80 - 95            Don’t you deserve better than average?

96 – 143         Wow!  You’ve got a silver medal winner!

144+              You have a pure gold Olympic medal angel!

“Before you try to change others,

remember how hard it is to change yourself.”

(Bill Bluestein)

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.astromoon.wordpress.com

First you find someone worthy of you and then apply the CHART acronym and principles below.  If you don’t have any of these five fundamental foundation keys, your relationship will wither and die.  When one practices, the spiritual principles of the law of attraction, one manifests a partner whose energy mirrors your own.  In my experience in counseling as well as growing my own marriage, I have found these secret keys to make a relationship not only thrive, but also come alive!

C ommunication.  Talk about the little things as well as the big things!

H onesty.  The ability to trust your partner enough to be 100% honest

A ttitude of a cup half full.  In other words, a positive reframing attitude.

R espect for each others strengths and weaknesses.  We all have both. 

T rust.  If you take the “t” off you get rust and then you have dust!

Recently a woman married for 10 years with 3 kids told me she was ready to throw in the towel and end her marriage.  To all outward appearances, she has it all with a successful husband, a nice home and luxury of being a stay-at-home mother.  Now I happen to know this successful workaholic husband adores his wife and kids.  So what was missing?  The only element from the CHART was communication.  Hubby was too busy to listen to what was important to his wife and acknowledge her emotional needs.  She needed to be heard.  Communication has two elements to it.  One of these is to be heard and the other is to speak.  Both pieces have to be in place before you have communication and both man and woman have to have their say as well as their hearing. 

Reflection Questions Love Quiz On a scale of 1-10 rate yourself.  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.

1. communication – how well do I listen? 
2. communication -  Do I feel like I am heard by my partner?
3. honesty – how much can you honestly tell to your honey?
4. attitude – how frequently do you show that you are contented to be with your main squeeze?  Are you positive or negative?
5. respect – strengths, gifts and talents – do you support these in your partner?
6. respect – weaknesses – do you make allowances for these? 
7. trust – how well can you trust the person you love?  What percentage of the time?

If you scored 5 or less on any one of these areas, you have some major work to do on your relationship.  The higher you score the better quality relationship you have.  A note of caution to all of you is that a relationship has to be constantly watered with CHART elements or it withers and blows away in the dust!  CHART holds true for quality friendships as well.

May the hinges of love never rust

nor the wings of friendship lose a feather

(Jack Frost, 2008)

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca

Love Calculator Quiz:  On a scale of 1 – 10 with one being seldom and ten meaning I do it every day, rate yourself on the following 5 main keys:

1. fifteen minutes of meditation a day
2. share something with others every day
3. I focus on positive emotions every day
4. I do inner reflection and know I am in control of my attitude.
5. I experience sex frequently with my partner as an physical expression of our love.

The Law of Attraction says that what you put out to the universe, you attract to yourself.  So how did you do?  If you scored 5 or less in any one area, you have some work to do!  It’s by raising our awareness to the conscious level that we can empower ourselves to change our attitudes and beliefs.  In other words, instead of love being a mystery, stop playing games and do the work to empower yourself!  Attract the love you want and manifest the man you want into your life. 

When I begin and end my day with meditation and positive affirmations, it helps me to fix my top four top life priorities uppermost in my mind.  I then am empowering myself to focus my energy on what truly is important to my soul or life essence.  Love and my relationship is my number one priority that brings me joy and happiness, I’m going to chose to spend energy every day on continuing to make that a sacred pact between my honey and I.  Suck it up princess.  This is something we women do or it simply does not get done.  We are the “social secretaries” of the household.  Therefore we have to plan the emotional agenda if we want to feel contentment in our love relationships.  Similarly, if you desire positives and loving attention from your love heart, then you have to be the role model on how that should happen in your relationship.  He is looking to your for leadership in what you emotionally feel comfortable with. 

Reflection Questions

1.      What 4 things describe what I truly want in my relationship?

2.      List 4 excellent qualities that you have, that your partner has.

3.      List 4 qualities that you really need to work on improving so you can experience more love, joy and happiness in your life.

4.      Do you start and end your day saying something positive to your honey? 

"To get up each morning with the resolve to be happy . . .

is to set our own conditions to the events of each day.

To do this is to condition circumstances

instead of being conditioned by them."
(Ralph Waldo Emerson)

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca

When we are in the first or beginning stages of love, our very heart sings along with the rhythms of the universe.  We have opened our love energy centres.  Our energy or chakras  in our mind, body and spirit are open for the business of receiving all the love the world has for us.  In other words, our sensory systems are pure, clean and fresh to receive this new love interest.  We are living in an unpolluted love world.  We have little knowledge or experience of how this love relationship is going to affect our hearts, our minds or our bodies.  We just know it feels right in every sense of our personal environment or world.  If we have a strong love foundation founded on spiritual love and mutual respect, this will continue. However our love world appears polluted if we continually encounter pain through this relationship.  Our senses are shutting down and shutting out the beauty of the very world we live in.

Driving for several hours yesterday I was reminded that Love is a Nature Cycle process.  Love is like the glorious spring when it first begins.  The very air smells different.  It is fresh and we feel totally alive and refreshed in every nerve of our being.  Colors are brighter.  Birds seem to sing sweet melodies and their loving voices are louder.  The very clouds are puffy and large and full of wonderous shapes.

As our relationship matures, it is like summer.  We are more naked in our relationship as we open ourselves trusting that our partner will be open and honest with us.  When we are confident that this relationship is a lasting one, it is like fall or autumn.  We reap the harvest of the seeds of love sown when we were in the spring of our love.  If we work hard at sustaining a loving relationship, the fall season lasts forever.  Sometimes, however we experience the ending of all growing things.  When our relationship is over it is like winter.  Our hearts freeze and we no longer enjoy the energy of the person we once loved.  Our love energy withers and dies on the vine.  A good gardener prunes that love vine and throws it on the compost heap to feed the soil for a new spring.  Similarly, if you are unhappy in your relationship, perhaps it is time to snip the branches and let it dry on the compost heap.  Otherwise you will not permit yourself to feed your soul and love cleanly and clearly again. 

Reflection Questions

1.      What season is your love relationship in?  spring, summer, fall or winter?

2.      How are you feeding your love relationship energy?

3.      Is it time to prune your love branches?

4.      One a scale of 1-10 how much do I love my partner?  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.

If you scored 5, then this is only an average relationship, little better than a casual friendship.  Don’t you deserve a 6 or better?

The trees are greener

The sky is bluer

The clouds are whiter

The stars are brighter

The air is purer

when I’m in love. 

(Sherrie Hay, educator)

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to change that!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com or if your desire information on how horoscopes relate to love, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca

Years ago, I set out to find how I could increase my Love IQ.  I found that when I looked at my partner’s astrology Moon sign, it helped me to understand where my partner was coming from emotionally.  The Moon sign is about affairs of the heart.  The Moon sign is also how we react to our world emotionally.  Relationships have to do with emotions, so for me it was a terrific fit.  By matching up the Moon and Sun energy of two people you are more likely to be compatible my research showed me.  The result?  My hubby and I have our Moon and Sun signs matching in earth and water and it is a fabulous mix.  Air and fire elements also work well together emotionally.  That doesn’t necessarily mean other astrology sign combinations don’t work.  They just seem to have to work harder at making a compatible relationship work well.

Reflection Questions

1.      Where is your Sun Sign?  Your Moon sign?    

2.      What elements of fire, earth, air or water does your Sun and your Moon fall under?

3.      Where is your sweetheart’s Sun Sign?  His Moon sign?

4.      In which elements of fire, earth, air or water does your sweetheart’s Sun and Moon Sign fall under?

To find where the Moon is in your chart visit my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com and visit the section on Love and relationships.  Follow the links!  I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to change that!  If you desire information on how horoscopes relate to love, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca

The only sure thing is that you will go through a step by step process of first adoring the new person in your life.  All you want to do is dream about him, talk about him incessantly to your closest friends and sit by the phone anxiously awaiting his call.  Your heart thumps wildly when you see him and blood easily rushes to your face.  During the next stage when you actually have gone out a few times, you begin to notice his human-ness.  Some things aren’t 100% perfect, but that’s okay too.  You have adjusted what you want out of the relationship and are still perfectly okay because he fits 85% of your criteria. 

During the third phase, you literally are at a cross roads.  You’ve been together for some time.  You are seeing cracks through the mask he puts on as his public face.  Can you live with the real person?  Your mask is also beginning to crack as he sees you in action when you do things together.  In this stage you are more willing to trust and show a deeper inner you that is a truer picture of who you are.  You have risked taking off your public face.  However, if you do not find he is honorable and trustworthy with some of your fragile feelings, your public mask soon returns.  This is the phase where you decide to stay with him or to leave.

During the fourth phase, your relationship deepens as your love deepens.  You have settled into a more lasting love that possibly can stand the test of time.  Deeper love feelings in relationships are based on four “must-have” qualities: trust, honorable great communication skills, and reliablility.

Love Calculator Questions  On a scale of 1-10 where 5 = average, 10 = the best

1.      how trustworthy is your sweetheart?

2.       How honorable is your sweetheart?

3.      How well do the two of you communicate about matters important to both of you?

4.      How reliable is he?  How reliable are you? 

Add up your love calculator.  If your score is 20 or less then you have a lot of work to do.  If your score is 28 or more, you are well on your way to a lasting relationship!

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to change that!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com or if your desire information on how horoscopes relate to love, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca

Create your manifesting or vision board!  First be clear on the characteristics of the man or woman you want to bring into your life on a permanent basis.  If you clearly understand the basic “must have” characteristics that you simply need in your partner, then you are well on your way to manifesting your ideal man or woman. 

Years ago after being through disaster after chaotic disaster in relationships, I did this exercise and came up with my priority list.  On the list I wrote down the qualities I needed for my partner.  Sometimes, it is easier to write down what you don’t want on left side of your paper, then write down the opposite word on the right side.  Once I clearly understood my “must have these characteristics” list, then I was able to create my manifesting wishes for my ideal partner.   He walked in my door a few days later.  Coincidence?  I don’t think so.  I had to know what I wanted in a man before the universe could bring him to me!  Okay, time to raise your consciousness!

Reflection Questions

1.What qualities does my ideal mate have? List 4 absolute must have characteristics such as honesty, loving

2.  List 4 qualities it would be nice to have.

3.  List 4 qualities that would be gravy if s/he had them, but you can live without them.

4.  Prioritize your list.  Now write down the feelings you will have when you have a partner with these qualities.

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to change that!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com or if your desire information on how horoscopes relate to love, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca

Our emotions are governed by largely by our birth Moon sign in our personal astrology charts.  However, the Moon changes signs every couple of days.  Many of us change emotions to match and reflect that Moon sign change.  If you are interested in pursuing this further then visit my astrology blog at www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca.

In his book, Emotional IQ, Goleman notes there are 5 main areas that indicate we will choose to have an emotional successful life.    I have those 5 areas outlined for you in the reflection questions.

Reflection Questions

1. know your emotions.  When you are feeling something can you put a name to it?  Increase your self-awareness.
2. manage your emotions.  How do you manage your behavior when you are sad?  When you are angry? When you are full of joy and happiness?
3. motivate yourself.  How well you master managing your emotions is up to you.  On a scale of 1-10, where do you feel you are at this moment in time? 5 = average.
4. recognize emotions in others.  This is called people skills.  Where are you at on your scale of 1 – 10 in your people skills?   How well do you read other peoples’ emotions?
5. handling relationships.  If you are at least at a 5 in knowing how someone else feels, then you are well on your way to handling your relationships effectively.  When you are in negative emotion, pause and ask yourself where you are on your love and relationship calculator!

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to change that!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com for more in-depth information.     

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It's a Windows 95 freeware that throws up startling facts about interpersonal relationships, and it's all in percentages. I might not take it at face value, but it does provide enough mirth to brighten my mood.

When I first downloaded the software, I thought some testing was in order (the funda is to give two full names of people or places or things and it will throw up the love percentage).

The love quotient of Iraq and USA stood at 1 per cent. Ditto with India and Pakistan. Not bad, I thought, and moved on to Iran and Iraq. 0 per cent, declared Dr Love, and went on to conclude that it was ditto with Iraq and Kuwait.

Right off the bat, the bond between the cricket world cup and South Africa seemed to be the strongest (86 per cent) followed by West Indies (83 per cent). Sorry about India (54 per cent).

Now I thought some generic things might make things more believable. I played coffee and tea against each other, and realised they share a good rapport (71 per cent), though beer and vodka bonded the best (91 per cent).

Not surprisingly, cellphones and landlines didn't like each other (22 per cent) and so did war and peace (26 per cent), Karnataka and Tamil Nadu (10 per cent).

Convinced, I asked Dr Love about Romeo and Juliet and he said, 98 per cent (congrats Shakespeare). And the one that scored off each other was love and lust with 98 per cent.

It was now my time to be the guinea pig. Between Zahid H Javali and Zahid H Javali, I scored 86 per cent (I do love myself but by what percentage, I knew only now).

My love for Bangalore (97 per cent) was higher than my hometown (Dharwad scored 43 per cent), which was true indeed.

Moving on, I sought to know my personal equation with Allah.

"63 per cent," pointed Dr Love, clinically.

I typed 'God'.

"74 per cent."

The best thing about the calculator is who should not of gotten married. My Dads first marriage only got an 18 percent. Maybe a little to much open bar for pops. His current wife have a score of an 82 percent. They should last long enough that when they want to get divorced they will be to scenile.

-Phil